Jeff had alcohol addiction.
All addiction is the same and there are many really smart and educated people that are fully aware that
it is going to harm and or kill them but the compulsion is so strong they do it anyway.
I was involved with AA in Boston for around a year. I have been to two different programs in the VA, one
in Brockton and the other at Jamaica Plain.
So when I saw the isolation tactics of addiction kick in I knew what I was looking at. The drug dealer or
bar keeper wants your friends to increase their business. Addiction itself wants you isolated and alone
so it can do what it is designed to do.
At Brockton we had a man named Jack Raposa that was a Vietnam Veteran and he went to the Yale
Addiction Course and was the lead guy for addiction. He would just lay it out but not like a drill
instructor. "Look around you as one of you in this circle will be dead this time next year" was always a
good one as was "All you dirty junkies want to die in your sleep, none of you are that lucky" was my
So I tried the tough love thing and that never works.
When Jeff and I's mutual friend Keith Clancy died in 2001 from addiction we both took it in.
There is no way Jeff would not to have had people learn from the path he chose regardless of if it was
good or bad.
Addiction shows that the brain at times wants to return to the animal kingdom.
The stubborn behavior is first, then comes delusion and finally acceptance that death may not be a bad
option. We all get death but addiction allows us to get there a lot quicker and without much of a push.
Jeff will be missed and as with all addiction minded people I learned a lot from him. In a way sometimes
they are too smart for their own good. Addiction has all the tools of your arsenal at it's disposal.
It is you versus yourself. Outside daily ritual to include prayer is acceptance that you may not be able to
fight your own mind at times.